Friday, September 9, 2011

Week One: We Survived!

Today's Friday!  End of the first week of school AKA the longest week of the year.  Who knew that being a mom would mean I would get to suffer the pangs and indignities of childhood doublefold.

Here are the low points and high notes of week one.

Child #2 walks home sobbing because he's already incurred three time outs.  I experience a pang of resentment for his teacher, even as I remind him of the importance of listening, instead of talking, (he's my chatty one) and keeping your hands to yourself (also my grabby one).  A short chat with the object of my resentment the next morning reassures me they weren't so much time outs as reminders to listen.  Hmm, that explains why he described them as short time outs.

Child #1 realizes that all her best friends are in the other fourth grades.  "Mom, every one is friends with each other and no one is friends with me."  My heart breaks.  Honestly and truly, it just breaks but I hold it together and point out how lucky she is to have the opportunity to make a whole bunch of new friends this year.  "You'll have all your old friends AND all the new ones you make this year."  She looks skeptical.  I don't blame her, but she does agree to ask to try to sit with a couple of the nicer girls at lunchtime.

Child #2 describes his teacher as "hot".  "She's hot?" I ask.  "Yeah, especially in the afternoon 'cause there's no air-conditioning in our class." 

Child #1 comes home excited about maps.  "Did you know they made the first maps out of clay in Egypt?  We get to make a bumpy map [topographical] that shows mountains and volcanoes out of packaged frosting."  Child #1 has a deep fondness for packaged frosting ever since I banned it from our home.

It's ups, it's downs.  One minute they're happy.  The next, life is terrible, miserable, awful, end of the world.  I mirror whatever they're feeling with an intensity they would find laughable.  In the end Child #2 says it best, "This week's been kinda good, kinda bad.  Mostly, I'm looking forward to the ice cream social on Friday." 


SBJones said...

Have you had the talk about the "Sometimes friends"? The ones that are only friends when there is no one else for them to play with.

Hermana Tiffany Garner said...

I remember those days. It's really hard when you don't know anyone in your class. My family was one of those that moved around a lot (no, not military) so I was constantly in that situation. Now that I'm in college, it hasn't changed--I'll have classes where I know four or five people and classes where I know no one. Just learning to introduce yourself and get to know people is a valuable skill and I've learned a lot from it. I've also discovered a lot of characters that way :)

Johanna Garth said...

Thanks SB and Tiffany,

Good advice! And, as always seems to happen with kids, by the time I get ready to focus on something they've moved on. Happily, we went from tears and complaints to four square and reading buddies. Whew! But, I'm sure I'll be ready to use your advice again in another three weeks;)

Sarah Tokeley said...

You said it. Any slights that my girls suffered when they were younger stayed with me a lot longer than with them!

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

Things I don't have to deal with... (No kids!)
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