The first week of The Fulfillment Project has been amazing. There have been so many thoughts and ideas posted on my blog and emailed directly to me that I wanted to devote a day just to you.
First off, I got to meet Shelly. http://thebiglifeproject.com/ Shelly was diagnosed with chronic fatigue syndrome and decided she needed a way to focus on everything wonderful about life (I hope I've paraphrased that accurately Shelly). This desire fueled her Big Life Project. What inspired me most about Shelly was the way she has taken something difficult and turned it into a focus on joy. I think that kind of focus will play an important role in The Fulfillment Project, and even though I haven't gotten to it yet...it will come.
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cropped pic from Shelly's website |

I also loved a comment by Hart at http://waterytart23.blogspot.com/ She brought up the blessing of having enough, not so much that you don't appreciate the good things in life, but enough so you aren't miserable. I love this idea, which is essentially about balance. I'm quite certain balance is going to play an essential role in The Fulfillment Project.
Finally, the two comments made by almost every guy I know, including my husband are as follows:
1. You seem pretty happy; and
2. Why are you doing things you don't like (in response to my Internal Shudder post).

As for the second point, either every guy I happened to talk to this week is way more self-actualized than every woman I know, or it really is a Mars/Venus kind of thing.
Next post will be published on Monday. It asks the question, what brings joy? My answer pushes me back towards an abandoned passion. I can't wait to hear about all of your passions (abandoned and otherwise) that bring you joy.
9 comments:
Surely the more pertinent question is why wouldn't you try to make yourself even happier if you can?
What brings me joy? Family. Writing. Nature. My dog. Reading.
I think it's the logical part of us that asks that question!
Thanks for the mention and link!
I'm following your project with great interest. Good luck to you -
Cyndi
Sarah, see! That's the perfect question.
Matthew, I may need to talk to you about the dog bit later in the project. We don't have one...yet.
Alex, I think you're right!
My pleasure Cyndi and thanks again for the recommendation.
Hey, thank you for the shout-out! As for the man/woman thing... you know what i think? Men think we over think it... that we'd be happier not thinking about why we aren't happier. (they probably... if you really got to the root of it, think we should just think about sex more). I think there IS something to overthinking it sometimes, but at the same time, i think training yourself to focus on the good and change small habits really CAN have amazing results.
This sounds like a great project... and I agree with Alex... it is the logical part of us that asks, isn't it?
So glad I stumbled across your blog :)
In my experience, men are no less influenced by what they think they should like/want than women are - they are just less aware of how those "shoulds" affect their life. Is a love of flowers or the color pink really determined by your chromasomes? Or is it just that men from a very young age learn to completely shut off thoughts that don't fit within the typical idea of what a man should be? Reading Raising Cain and it just make me sad that R has no problem discussing his love of swords, but only reveals how much he loves his baby doll to a selet few boys (child 2 being one of the few who get the love of violence and nurturing at the same time).
Johanna, I'm honored you stopped by my Project site! Thank you for the kind words and the link here on your lovely blog! I have been out of circulation for a few days, and this was such a joy to find as I am catching up on my social media and reading. You made my day. So if you get some of your fulfillment from helping others and making them smile, your project is yielding fruit. :-)
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