Monday, October 17, 2011
The Fulfillment Project
However, as I read The Happiness Project, I began to feel like Gretchen Rubin and I could be the same person. First of all, we have a lot in common. Both lawyers turned writers-check. Both lived in New York City (where she still lives)-check. Two kids-check. Her husband is Jewish and his first name starts with a J-silly, but still check. Neither of us are particularly religious-check. Both love children's literature-check. Those are the surface commonalities but we have even more in common. She started her project because, like me, she also loves her life. Also, like me, there are days when she feels like she should be happier. Neither of us are suffering from depression. It's not that, it's better described as a failure to enjoy, savor or be in the present moment.
Gretchen wrote a well-researched book about her attempt to maximize her happiness. I'm going to write a not very well-researched series of blog posts about it.
With a twist.
I like everything with a little twist. If I'd had to wear a uniform to school, I'd be the one with the crazy hair bows and ridiculous socks. That's just me. So here's my twist. Instead of reasoned research and quotes on happiness, I'm going to give you myself. I'm going to experiment, like a human lab rat, using some of Gretchen's ideas and some of my own. What you'll get to read about, at least once a week, is the process and the results. The other twist is I'm going to call it the Fulfillment Project. To me, the word happiness feels too glib and fleeting. You can be happy without being fulfilled. But the reverse isn't true. If you are fulfilled, you will be happy.
That's my goal. I hope you'll enjoy reading about it.