Wednesday, November 9, 2011

The Fulfillment Project Analyzes Check Marks

After two weeks of using the check mark system (lucky for me Halloween came along and replenished my kid's candy coffers) it's time to step back and think about whether it helped me accomplish my goal.

Does my system of check marks and sugar deprivation do anything to make my pretty good life even better?

In a word, YES, I think it does.

There's nothing magical about the check mark system, but at a time when I needed to up my game a little bit, it gave me one more tool in my parental arsenal. I've noticed I'm less likely to get sucked into the back and forths, the wheedling and the yelling than I have been in the past. One check mark and we all move on, which seems like a better response to many of the small (but annoying) things my kids do. This seems to give me more patience for the bigger things.

On a more basic level, I have to admit that there's a certain visceral comfort in grinding my kid's candy up in the garbage disposal. When you're faced with someone stretched out on the floor kicking the table leg or when someone has refused to put on their shoes after being asked no less than twenty times, the whirring of the garbage disposal is downright therapeutic. Does that make me a bad person? I don't know?? I think it probably just makes me human.

Which brings me to the next phase of the The Fulfillment Project. That's right! Me!

So far I've talked about reclaiming my refrigerator and behavior modification strategies for the kiddos. Both of these things have, in their small ways, helped to make my pretty good life better. In fact, the refrigerator reclaimation spawned a closet reclamation and a huge box of things being donated to the Goodwill this weekend.

But, as I've been going about all this tidying and doling out of check marks I realized that it wasn't just the refrigerator and kids who needed to shape up. What about me? I mean, after all, don't we each play the primary role in our own personal happiness? The path seemed clear. I realized I was going to need to put my money where my virtual mouth was and turn the focus of The Fulfillment Project onto myself.

Tomorrow, The Fulfillment Project takes a dramatic step.


Jessica Bell said...

Sounds like things are going well! Keep it up and you'll be wonder woman in no time ;o)

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

Your turn? Does this mean your kids get to do some garbage disposal grinding?
Yeah, I think I'd enjoy that as well. So don't feel guilty!

Sarah Tokeley said...

I'm interested to read what's coming next :-)

Johanna Garth said...

Thanks Jessica!

Alex, yeah, I think so.

Sarah..I posted late responses are overlapping with my posts.