As promised on Thursday, today's post looks at how the check mark system works on a completely different kind of kid.
"I'm so sorry. Is he bothering you?" I asked.
"No, he's like paid entertainment," I was told.
For the rest of our vacation everywhere we went people stopped us...to talk to Child #2. Life is exceptionally kind to Child #2 and when it isn't, he shrugs it off as an anomoly. Hence my dilemma with discipline. He's stoic about lost privileges, even going so far as to remind me to enforce any punishment I might mete out. Sometimes I feel like life gives him so much that he doesn't really care about punishment. Still, I was determined to stick to the check mark system with both kids.
As I said before, every kid has their touchy points. Child #1's are precise, like her, but Child #2's are more ambiguous. On any given day, I go through a litany of things that I ask him NOT to do. Some days I feel like all I say is "please don't touch, shout in my ear, pour water over your head at school, feed strange dogs, put your hand down your pants, eat things you find on the sidewalk, destroy [fill in the blank], lick you sister, roll in the mud, play with toilet water, talk to strangers." It's a neverending list, but the more I thought about it, the more I realized that the common thread was impulse control.
Tomorrow, The Fulfillment Project looks at Child #2's induction into the check mark system.