Thursday, November 17, 2011

The Fulfillment Project Asks: Is Yes Always Good?

This week I’ve realized that there are all different types of Yes. For purposes of my blog I’m going to separate them into a few categories.

There’s the Yes to experience.

The Yes to indulgence, and on the other side of the spectrum.

There’s the Yes to responsibility.

When I first announced my week of Yes, some people suggested this would be a good time for the kids to ask for a dog. They were right, because that’s a Yes to experience. Somehow the Yes to experience feels like the younger, more carefree person I used to be.
Someone else suggested it would be a good time to eat all the candy I've been raking in through my check mark system
And then there was the final suggestion.
The one that I had to stop and think about. What if someone asked me to do something big, something like run the school auction? In the spirit of Yes week, would I need to say Yes?
Adding another thing to my ever-growing list of chores seemed anti-Yes, so I did what all good spin artists do: I simply reframed the issue.
If I said Yes to an additional responsibility well within my comfort zone, wouldn't I actually be saying No to learning something new? Of course I would!
With my conscience clear as to the third type of Yes, I had to backtrack to the second kind of Yes. The Yes to indulgence.
Of course, there are all kinds of indulgences, but the one that came to my mind, a week before Thanksgiving, was the eating kind. Could I, should I, say Yes to caloric free-for-all? Is that in the spirit of saying Yes?
Next week The Fulfillment Project tackles a weighty issue.


Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

Thanksgiving comes once a year - say yes and enjoy!

jenny milchman said...

Caloric free for all, no prob! But the school auction? And that a-dor-a-ble puppy??? Sadly, no...

Excited for the next post!

Sarah Tokeley said...

It's not as easy as it first sounds, is it?