I'll get to that, but first I need to back track to Gretchen Rubin's book, The Happiness Project. In her book she discusses her Secrets of Adulthood, the slightly goofy list specifically tailored to her that she created while writing her book. After the refrigerator redo, I discovered my first Secret of Adulthood, which was:
If I want my husband to do something consistently, I need to sell it to him in terms of dollars saved.The Yes week led to my second Secret of Adulthood:
I am happiest when I follow the same rules I set for my children.
I enforce bedtimes because I know my kids aren't pleasant to be around when they're exhausted. Desserts are almost every day, but served in modest portions. They get a little bit of sugar but we don't overdo it.
When my kids get home from school, they have to finish their homework before they go play. In the morning, chores must be completed before play time. I insist they dress appropriately for the weather because I know they'll be miserable without gloves or a warm coat.
When I started searching for a guideline to help me sort out the Yeses, I realized following the kid rules seems to lead me in the right direction. In the beginning of my Fulfillment Project I talked about taking up horseback riding again. Would I allow my children to take up horseback riding? Absolutely!
Will I have second helpings? Most likely, but first, I'll stop and ask myself the same question I always ask my kids. Are you still hungry?
As for the pie, chocolate and pumpkin, made by my mother whose pie has won multiple awards. Will I have two slices?? Yes, but they'll both be small. That's what I'll tell my kids when they ask and so that's what I'm going to say to myself...wish me luck!