On Monday I wrote about failing up, which is my way of saying I'm almost ready to take a plunge into waters where failure is a given.
But before I plunge into that cold and particularly icy water I'm going to talk about excuses. Below is a list of the ones I hear most frequently and their counter arguments.
1. "Who has that kind of time? I'm way too busy."
And yet, if you look at your schedule carefully I'm sure you'll realize you have more time than you let on. We live in the twenty-first century. The main advent of which, has been to create innovations which free us from physical labor and give us more free time. If it's something really important, I'm confident you'll find the time.
2. "I'm too old/young."
Or maybe you're just the right age. Too young, then you have so much more time and energy to keep trying and push through until you reach success. Too old? Come on, that's an easy one. You have the wisdom of your years to guide you.
3. 'They' are so much better than I am. I could never be that good.
4. "But, but...what if I fail?"
This is my particular hang up. I hate the thought of people watching me fail. This was my biggest worry about publishing Losing Beauty with a small press. (What if some people classified that as failure? Should I have held out for a big six deal? What, oh what, would people say?)
The truth is no matter how successful you are some people will find a way to tear you down. The other truth is the number of people who take pleasure in your success will greatly outweigh the first group. Surround yourself with the second group and ignore the haters. It's a tried and true survival skill that has worked since we were primordial ooze. It'll work for you too.
5. "I hate rejection."
Have you met anyone who thrives on rejection? Nope, me neither. We all hate rejection. And sadly, we all get rejected.
There's a corallary to this excuse. Do you like it when people say wonderful things about you? Yes, me too!
As a writer, there's no way to experience the good unless you risk the bad. If you've followed my advice for #4 above, you'll have a bunch of writer friends to hold your hand through each and every rejection. We know! We feel your pain. We are fellow recipients of enough rejections to virtually wallpaper every corner of our virtual bathroom too.
Ironically, today I'm leaving you with an excuse of my own. It's excuse #1 in fact.
Friday will be a blogger break day for me AKA Girl's Weekend. I guess that's the last thing about excuses. Sometimes, every once in a while, they're okay.