Everywhere I look I see article after article citing early puberty for girls. I read stories, with mixed amounts of horror and sadness, about fifth grade girls performing oral sex. And I look at the role models that seem to be role models for plastic surgery and tight clothes instead of confidence and self-esteem.
The world seems to be afloat in a sea of negativity about our daughters. They're growing up too fast, they're too fat, too thin, overly manipulated by media and unkind to each other in social situations.
Which is why I was so pleased when my daughter announced that fourth grade class would be celebrating a girls only wedding.
One girl proposed to another and that, combined with the love of planning an event, gave birth to a wedding. It will be a backyard event at one of the bride's homes. Jellybeans will be served but no peanuts, because one of the brides has a peanut allergy. Although, I've been told the option of pistachios in the shell was being thrown around during Friday recess.
"Did you get an invitation?" she asked me.
"That kind of says it all, right mom."
The invitations have all gone out by email. The girls without email accounts are to receive their invitations by hand delivery.
My daughter, as best friend to both brides, will be a bridesmaid. Another girl is designing the dresses for the entire wedding party with possible assistance from Goodwill Industries.
"It's casual dressy, mom," she told me. "But don't get too excited because you don't need a dress since you're not invited."
|Child #1 and one of the brides-to-be|
The wedding guests will be almost exclusively fourth grade girls, with two notable exceptions.
The first, is the bride's little sister, who is going to be the flower girl. The second, is a fourth grade boy who plays with these girls and will be officiating the ceremonies, as priest or rabbi, or possibly both.
The date is set for April 7th.
I hope they have a glorious spring morning for their wedding. But whether the sun is shining or not I will be happy in the knowledge that this group of girls is writing their own rules. Of course, I'll have to be happy from afar since, you know, I'm not invited.